Another audience member asked if time-outs should not be given to children.
“I’d suggest it has unintended consequences,” Williams said. “Self-esteem, belonging and control drops and sometimes children will do things to provoke responses or attention as a result of a time-out.”
Ostracism causes a behavioral effect, like making people more likely to conform, and can also cause people to become more aggressive, Williams said. It also might make people become more impulsive or interfere with someone’s ability to solve problems.
Extended periods of it can make it harder for the person who is ostracizing to stop. It might be harder to stop giving a silent treatment because of the control it gives, Williams said.
Williams ended the forum by suggesting what can be done. Suggestions he had were getting people to stop ostracizing others, providing education about ostracism and finding ways to make it less painful for people or improve coping skills.
Interventions include providing social support.
“Social support and having just one friend, or a social connection, is vital,” Williams said.
Other suggestions included meditation, prayer, or stopping people from ruminating can help calm people and speed up recovery.
Chris Lagoni, Carroll Consolidated School Corporation superintendent, spoke of his experience leading children’s church. He asked Williams what to do when a child might be perceived as socially awkward, which results in the group sometimes avoiding or leaving out the child.
Williams said discipline and intervention are necessary as a teacher.
The third session will be Nov. 13 at the Wabash and Erie Canal center, Delphi, and will allow for discussion on actions that individuals and organizations can take. There will be a light supper at 6 p.m. and the program will be 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.
Amie Sites is a staff reporter at the Pharos-Tribune. She can be reached at 574-732-5117 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow her: @PharosAES.