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April 22, 2012

Becoming a parent too soon

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Her husband did go to school during the day, and he worked evenings at a Logansport shoe store, bringing home $30 a week. With help from their parents, the young family managed to survive.

After her child was born, Henry went back to school, determined to earn her diploma with the rest of her class.

“I’d already mortified my mom and dad,” she said. “I wanted to do something that would make them proud of me.”

It wasn’t easy.

“I remember hearing my old friends talking about going cruising, going to the prom, going out on dates. I had to go home to take care of my baby.”

One in three pregnant girls finishes high school, Henry said, but she beat the odds. Her challenges, though, were far from over.

“When I walked across the stage, I was pregnant again,” she recalled.

Two years later, Henry had baby number three.

She told her audience that most teenage marriages end in divorce. Hers was no exception.

“By now I was 26 years old, and I had three kids,” she said. “I decided it was time to make something of myself.”

She had earned an associate’s degree in nursing by the time she was 30, and in 2007, she earned a bachelor’s degree. She’s been a registered nurse for 22 years.

Henry encourages today’s parents to talk to their kids about sex, and she stressed to the teenagers in last week’s audience that there’s only one sure-fire way to avoid getting pregnant: Don’t have sex.

Beyond having that frank discussion with their own kids, she said, parents can do one more thing for their teenagers: Make them proud of themselves.

“Kids do make mistakes, and we need to ask them what they learned from those mistakes,” she said, “but they also make wonderful decisions, and we need to focus on that.”

She wants the teenagers of today to know that it is possible to overcome the odds, but she hopes they won’t have to.

“It’s way too hard,” she said.

• Kelly Hawes is managing editor of the Pharos-Tribune. He can be reached at 574-732-5155 or kelly.hawes@pharostribune.com.

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